• Consider double-dating the first few times you go out with someone you don’t know very well. This will serve two purposes: to help you feel more comfortable and at ease, and to give you an opportunity to get to know your date in a more relaxed setting.
• Before leaving on a date, know the exact plans for evening and make sure you let a parent or a friend know what you will be up to and when to expect you home. Make it a point to check-in with whomever you have trusted to contact, and let your date know that you are expected at a certain time.
• Understand that your ability to respond to an unsafe or unwelcome situation decreases when you drink alcohol or use drugs. Don’t send the message that you are willing to compromise your safety. It could cost you.
• Allow yourself the time to get to know the person you are dating. Opt for dates that make it possible for you two to talk and compare life experiences. Be keenly aware of Red Flags that may appear early on, and don’t make excuses for what you see or feel. If you are concerned, you probably have cause for concern.
• Remember that it is not acceptable for your date to drink excessively or abuse drugs while on a date with you. The personality of one under the influence can change dramatically and for the worst at the snap of a finger when alcohol or drugs are abused.
• Never sweep aggressive behavior under the carpet even when it is not directed at you. To excuse legal or discipline problems as quirks or simple bad habits is a bad idea. That aggressive or bad behavior may one day soon be leveled at you.
• Bear in mind that “nice guys” who cannot take “no” for an answer are not nice guys. Refuse to stay on a date that is making you uncomfortable. Call a parent, a friend or 911 for assistance.
• If at all avoidable, never leave a party or an event with someone you do not know well. Should you have no other choice, make sure to tell another person that you are leaving and with whom. Tell them how long it will take you to get home, and have that person call you in that time frame to make sure you are safe.
