The dating process is a method for getting to know someone. Although a number of factors may conspire to get you to want to know another better, always keep in mind that the first few days and weeks of dating may well lay the groundwork for the direction of your future relationship. How that groundwork is laid could make the difference between a growing and nurturing relationship and one that is filled with emotional, physical and mental turmoil.
Remember that when you date, you have the right to:
• Your own thoughts and emotions. You may not always agree, but you certainly have the right to think as you think and feel as you feel.
• Voice your personal ideas and have them respected.
• Be heard.
• Have your limits and sense of self-worth valued.
• Suggest activities or refuse activities suggested.
• Express your need for affection.
• Refuse unwanted affection.
• Your own money.
• Refuse to lend money.
• Refuse sex at any time and for any reason.
• Choose and make friends outside of your dating relationship.
• Assert yourself as you see fit.
• Feel safe wherever you may be.
• Know what direction the relationship is going.
• Be inquisitive.
• Refuse a date.
• Leave a date that is making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
Understand, and accept from the start, that not all dates will evolve into workable relationships. It is always best to take a level-headed approach in the dating process rather than be carried away with infatuation. A well-founded relationship will stand the test of time. Therefore, time vested in being honest with yourself and honest with your date is not only time well spent but it also betters the chances of your finding a long-term relationship, if that is what you seek.
